Medical Dating — White Coats and Date Nights. Understanding the Challenges and Joys of Medical Dating
If you are in the medical profession then you know how difficult having a social life can be! Due to the amazing work all medical professionals do it often means that their working hours can be very different from the norm and, more often than not, are very long! Finding love when working in the medical profession can be a very difficult process. Let’s be honest, it is not the sort of environment in which the people you meet are those you can try and establish a relationship with. It is well known that medical professionals are not allowed to begin romantic relationships with a patient, this can lead to a loss of job. Even if this was allowed you could argue that, considering the situation in which you would meet each other, it is not ideal to try and flirt with someone who is injured or very ill. Now, you might think that you could easily begin a relationship with another professional in the same place of work. However, the work that most, if not all, medical professionals do can be quite intense and the situation in which to chat with a colleague in such a romantic, jovial manner does not arise very often, if at all! The other issue here is that many people do not want to date a colleague due to the awkwardness it could create if the relationship went wrong.
Medical dating rooms are the way forward for medical professionals to meet people from the same working environment, get to know them, and, hopefully, establish a beautiful, romantic connection. The online dating world has redefined the dating possibilities for professionals everywhere. First, let’s take a look at the positives for a medical professional using such dating chat rooms.
- Meeting someone from the same professional background. While meeting people from different professions is not a bad thing, it could be said that dating someone from the same profession as you have added bonuses. We will outline more of these bonuses below but the first one is that they will understand what you are talking about! Obviously, you will both follow the protocols in relation to patient confidentiality but you will likely discuss your areas of expertise, different cases, and your journey in getting to the point in your career you are at now. If you meet someone that is not a medical professional you will probably find yourself explaining nearly everything you say regarding work. While some people won’t mind doing this it could become a bit laborious for some!
- As most people are probably already aware, medical professionals' working hours are not your standard 9-5! Even if you are a general practitioner it is likely that your surgery hours can be early or late or you may be needed in other areas, departments, or hospitals. If you already work in a hospital you will know that your hours can sometimes be at a very unsociable time! This leaves your free time as the only time you get to rest, and by rest, we mean sleep, which leaves you with little to no time to socialize, meet new people, or establish romantic relationships. These working hours can also make it difficult to retain a relationship with someone who is not a medical professional. They may not be as understanding about how little they get to speak with you or how much time they get to spend with you. If you use dating rooms designed for medical professionals they will be more understanding of this and will feel your pain! You may also end up with the same working pattern, or at least very similar, and therefore have the time to get to know each other better!
- Meeting people outside of your current circle can be difficult when you are a medical professional. This is primarily because of your working hours which restrict you to socializing, mainly, with the people you tend to work on the same shift with. While you probably enjoy spending time with these people you would more than likely prefer to create a romantic relationship away from this group. Meeting a prospective date on a dating site means you can get to know another medical professional away from your current group of friends and colleagues. Medical dating sites allow you to meet people from the same career background, form new relationships, and begin dating away from your own circle or place of work.
- You probably know this already, being a medical professional, but most people within the medical profession are kind and caring people. Let’s be honest, to do the job you do and deal with what you deal with you need to be kind, caring, and considerate of other people’s feelings and emotions. That being said, online medical dating chat rooms are full of people who are genuinely kind and caring which means you can mean like-minded, lovely people easily. If you want to find someone who understands your career choice, and can relate to what you do while also having wonderful personality traits then the medical dating rooms are the place for you.
Tips and Advice for Your First Messages and Conversations in Medical Dating Chat
You may think that because you and your prospective date both work within the same profession you know exactly what to talk about the topics you may need to avoid. However, this is not necessarily true. There are in fact questions that you should not ask (at least in the beginning) and topics that you should avoid (again, especially in the beginning). Just because you share your area of work does not mean that the conversation will come naturally easy. The first reason for this is that while you both might be medical professionals you could be in very different parts of this. First, we are going to look at the questions and topics to avoid.
- You do not want to delve too deep into their personal life. This could be said when dating anyone. Information about their financial situation and/ or relationship history should only be shared when each person is ready and a connection based on mutual trust has been well established. Do not ask questions such as ‘How much do you earn in a year?’, ‘why aren’t you married yet?’, ‘why did your last relationship fail?’ etc as you are likely to put your new medical friend off rather than encourage a relationship. Only discuss past relationships if they bring it up and are happy to!
- Do not focus too much on work. While we suggest that you discuss your respective careers this should not be the sole focus of your discussions. More often than not most medical professionals do not want to discuss their work too much, especially when trying to establish romantic connections. Sure, ask about the particular area of the medical profession they are in, and discuss yours, but be understanding if they wish to move away from the subject!
- You should already be aware of this next one so we apologize if we are telling you how to suck eggs. You should not ask about particular medical cases or discuss any of your own experiences either. You must make sure to always remain professional. If you discuss any of these cases you would not only be breaking confidentiality but also showing them that you cannot be trusted as you are discussing very private information.
- Don’t be boring! Yes, medical professionals are intelligent but that does not mean they want to discuss mundane topics. Medical professionals want to enjoy their dating conversations, so make sure you keep it interesting so that they do not lose interest in you and head somewhere else!
Now, the most important things to remember are the topics you should discuss and the questions that are definite must ask! Here, we are going to look at the topics and questions that are definitely appropriate when dating a medical professional and talking with them (whether online or in person).
- You will find that all medical professionals ask everyone ‘How are you doing?’, ‘How are you today?’. However, it is highly likely that they have not been asked how they are doing. While this may seem a little ‘ordinary’ they will appreciate that someone is genuinely interested in how they are feeling. Your date will want to know that someone cares about them.
- This is not necessarily an easy one so tread carefully. You can always ask them about their day. However, as you are fully aware, you cannot ask about details of a specific patient or case but you can always ask how their day was. They will appreciate the fact that someone wants to know how their day was and give them the opportunity to talk about it. They will respond in kind, knowing that it is highly like you have not been asked how your day went.
- A medical professional's spare time is precious so it is highly likely that they make very specific plans, and well in advance. You could ask your prospective date what their plans are for the upcoming weekend or the next few days. You will show your genuine interest in them by asking about their social life and not just focusing on the professional side. The ultimate goal here is to get to the point where you are making plans together, and romantic plans at that!
- It is likely that your prospective date would much rather talk about something other than their profession. You could talk about memories from your childhood, ask them about their family, or discuss your hobbies. Not only is this a wonderful way of getting to know each other but also works wonders as a back-and-forth conversation. You can discuss the similarities and differences between you both (for all of the aforementioned topics), share comical stories from the past, and see how your families compare. One piece of advice here though. When discussing families make sure you do not ask too deep a question. You do not want to upset your medical date!
- If you have started your dating journey with your medical professional online then we hope that you will have taken the time to read their profile. This is the best thing you can do to make a fantastic impression. If you comment on what they write or ask questions relating to their profile it will show you have taken the time to find out more about them before engaging them in conversation. Medical professionals are thorough by nature, as you know, and will appreciate someone showing genuine interest in them.
- This next one could be said of dating anyone, no matter their profession. Medical professionals are used to being heard every day. However, it is possible that they are not always listened to properly. There is a stark difference between hearing and listening. When conversing with your medical date you need to show that you actively listen to what they have to say. You can demonstrate this by making relevant comments and asking appropriate questions. They, like anyone, will greatly appreciate the fact that you truly listen to what they have to say. However, make sure that the conversation works both ways and that they do not only talk about themselves. If they do, then this is a red flag!
One thing that is important to remember is that you should not use your position within the medical industry against your prospective date. It could be true of any workplace or industry that people in certain positions look down upon those in other areas. Some medical professionals may feel that others are beneath them because of their rank or area of expertise. Make sure that you respect all the positions within the medical world when dating another professional. You all do amazing work and whether you are a surgeon, general practitioner (GP), nurse, porter, pharmacist, or any other member of medical staff you should treat each other with respect. Remember, you are looking to date the person, not the job title!
Date Ideas for Your Perfect Medical Date
You may either start your medical dating journey in the offline world or move there from the online world. Either way, you will want to make sure your dates are enjoyable for both parties involved and that you plan dates that help take you from friends to a romantic couple. We fully understand how hectic the life of a medical professional can be so your dating experience may look different from many others as your free time can come at random points in the week. Here we look at some of the different date ideas for medical professionals that help your journey blossom into something beautiful!
- A picnic is a perfect, simple yet romantic, date idea for medical professionals. It gives you both the chance to be outdoors, enjoy a delicious picnic, and spend some quality time talking with each other. You could even take candles (be careful!) and a little speaker to create some ambiance. The beauty of a picnic is that it can be done at any time of day (possibly not the middle of the night) and can be done anywhere - the beach, a park, your own garden!
- You could go for the classic coffee or dinner date. This is the perfect chance to get to know each other better in a non-intimidatory environment. You can relax together, enjoy some food, and spend some quality time learning more about each other and letting the romantic feelings grow!
- If you are a medical person who likes to keep fit you could go on a bike ride with your date, go hiking, or attend a class together. You can share your love of fitness while learning more about each other. This may depend on how physically demanding your medical role is so be understanding if your date is not keen on this idea!
- Keep it simple — go for a walk. You could arrange to go for a walk with your date in the local park, down by the beach, or just through town. This is the perfect date idea if you are both on split shifts and only have a couple of hours or if you want to meet each other for a short piece of time at the end of a shift. Picture this — you are both walking side by side, chatting about everything and nothing while giving each other romantic looks. Dates do not have to be expensive or full of fast-paced activity.
- If you have dated for a little while, you can start introducing new date ideas. Some of this will be dependent on your interests. You could get a nice bottle of wine, turn off the television, turn on some music, and have a cheese and wine night. One fun game that all people, not just medical professionals do, is the date night choosing game. People play rock, paper, scissors. Whoever wins each round picks something different for the night, for example, the first winner picks the starter, the second the main, the third the desserts, fourth the drinks. You could do the same to pick your activity. Not only is this fun, and different every time, but it provides you with a wonderful evening!
- Some things to avoid, especially in the beginning, are dates that take away the chance to talk. Avoid going to the cinema, loud, live music, etc. You need to be able to talk, get to know each other, and give the chance for romantic feelings to blossom!
At the end of the day, when dating a medical professional you need to treat them in the same way you wish to be treated. Your number one priority should be to be polite, always respectful, and make sure you listen at all times. Do these three things and you should find your dating journey with another medical professional quite successful!